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3 Core Needs Of Every Human Being

“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that enhances the freedom of others.” — Nelson Mandela

“The opposite of addiction is not sobriety, the opposite of addiction is connection.” — Johann Hari

“We have to stop being takers and start being caretakers.” — James Cameron

One of the dangers of living in such a prosperous and peaceful nation as America is that we inevitably begin taking what we have for granted, causing us to lose sight of what really matters. Most of us who are under fifty-years-old and have grown up in the U.S. have never experienced what it’s like to be a part of a war that impacts our home-front or the safety and security of our daily lives.

As a result, we end up creating big deals out of small issues, and begin making unimportant things way too important. And, in the process of doing so, we miss out on the importance of the 3rd tier of basic needs that every human being has. These are the non-obvious basic needs because they aren’t as directly correlated to survival, but they are of equal importance in turning mere survival into an existence that promotes and produces good for yourself, each other, and the communities we are a part of.

The three core needs of every human being are: to be 1) seen, 2) heard, and 3) connected.

When you strip away these three things from any human, you begin to push them back into the survival-mode of existence, and many times without even knowing it (or being conscious of it). When a need isn’t even recognized, there is no way for that need to be met—which is why these non-obvious needs can be so lacking in the lives of those around us just as much as in our own.

Sharing is Caring: But Sometimes It's A One-Way Street

“The only blessings you own are the ones you share.”  — Frank Blake

Like an Oreo, life is meant to be shared.

From the oxygen we breathe to the planet that we inhabit, every aspect of life is amplified by the ability to share. Many things in life begin to lose their luster or appeal when they become isolated and individualized.

Sharing life — the real, tangible, non-virtual aspects of the moment-to-moment existence we call “living” — that is what makes us human. Sharing is one of the distinct features of being human. It is one of the greatest means we have to experiencing joy and fulfillment each and every day. And it’s a part of life that is readily available, always within reach of our current grasp, no matter the place we find ourselves in.