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“You’re under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.” — Alan Watts
“The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from old ones.” — John Maynard Keynes
“To improve is to change, so to be perfect is to have changed often.” — Winston Churchill
You can change.
No, I’m serious. You really can.
But why don’t you? Why don’t we?
It’s important to know that you’re not alone in this problem of change. The struggle to change is a human dilemma that every individual faces to one degree or another. What is shared below will hopefully give you the tools to believe change is possible. The belief that can shift our self-limiting perceptions no matter how ingrained they may be.
“The only blessings you own are the ones you share.” — Frank Blake
Like an Oreo, life is meant to be shared.
From the oxygen we breathe to the planet that we inhabit, every aspect of life is amplified by the ability to share. Many things in life begin to lose their luster or appeal when they become isolated and individualized.
Sharing life — the real, tangible, non-virtual aspects of the moment-to-moment existence we call “living” — that is what makes us human. Sharing is one of the distinct features of being human. It is one of the greatest means we have to experiencing joy and fulfillment each and every day. And it’s a part of life that is readily available, always within reach of our current grasp, no matter the place we find ourselves in.
“Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.” — Jerzy Gregorek
Whether we want to or not, we are paying a price in countless decisions and actions throughout our days. The question is: do you want to pay more or less? And this is a valid question because there can definitely be times when deferring the cost till later is worth the extra cost to come.
It’s important to remember that when we hear the word “cost” we immediately associate it with dollar amounts or values, but that is by no means the only type of “cost” we pay. The more prevalent costs we face are opportunity costs.
Opportunity costs are the price we pay for doing anything. When we choose to do one thing, we pay the price of not being able to do a different thing.
“The world was not big enough for Alexander the Great, but a coffin was.” — Juvenal
(Fill in the blank):
If only I had _____, THEN I would be _____.
When it comes to the personal happiness, fulfillment, and joy found in life, this if-then statement pervades our daily thinking beyond what we may even realize.
Billboards, commercials, social-media ads, notifications, alerts, and on and on it goes… and that’s just the commercial side of things.
Life of the 21st century is training and conditioning its members that there is only one key that unlocks all we ever want in life. It’s a simple key that opens endless doors. This is the key of: having more.
Positive emotions can literally pay dividends.
“Dividends” are a form of recurring, passive income from larger investments in a business or company. Positive emotions emit intangible dividends that can add up, over time, into incredible sums of personal resourcefulness. And as Scott Belsky said so poignantly: “Resources are like cards. Resourcefulness is like muscle.”
I don’t know about you, but I would rather hedge my bets on resourcefulness over resources any day of the week. But the best case scenario is to build your resourcefulness while also growing your personal resources.
… so how do we do that? The answer might be easier than you’d expect.
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
“A goal is an objective, a purpose. A goal is more than a dream; it’s a dream being acted upon.” — David Schwartz
When we get out of bed we have two choices to make: 1) either make life happen, or 2) let life happen to us. Each day we have the opportunity to discover, understand, and remind ourselves of the point of our life and what we are living for. Not taking advantage of this opportunity will be the default choice if you do not intentionally or consciously make one. This is one of the greatest maladies, highlighted by Frankl’s psychotherapy, that continues to plague our existence, adding to the rise in depression, anxiety, and suicide.
While phones are an easy scapegoat (and rightfully so), I believe this is a surface wound and not the root. At it’s core, it is a loss of purpose; a loss of clarity in direction and pursuit; a misconstrued focus on image vs. relationship; an emphasis on self fulfillment through pleasure instead of meaning.
The beauty in this is that each day we have a choice. Every human has the ability to wake up on mission. Each individual has the capacity to set a trajectory for their life and pursue it. Each person can intentionally live with a daily drive for a higher purpose — for something bigger than themselves.
“Some things have to be believed to be seen.” — Madeleine L’Engle
“Capacity is a state of mind. How much we can do depends on how much we think we can do.” — David Schwartz
“So you’re saying there’s a chance!”
If you’re from the same era as me and are at all familiar with the Jim Carrey of old, this phrase brings one particular scene to mind — Lloyd Christmas asking Mary Swanson what his odds are for ending up with her. Standing there in the hotel lobby after a long, arduous, and near-to-frozen trip to Aspen, Lloyd represents a picture of hope in the middle of what seems to be hopelessness, the one-in-a-million chance of (in Lloyd’s words): “a guy like you and a girl like me ending up together” … this is the power of possibility, and the beauty of hope.
“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”
“The most important shot in golf is the next one.” — Ben Hogan
From Belief To Action
The first part of this mini-series on hope was all about the foundational hope of knowing we are never finished in life — or stated affirmatively: we are always in-process. Which means, our current place in life is more descriptive than it is definitive. It means that growth is possible, whether or not it looks like the picture of growth we imagined.
In this second installment of the mini-series, my goal is to discuss what our focus in that process should be — how we can leverage hope to our advantage and add fuel to fan the flame of that hope to higher and higher realms.
If knowing that growth is always possible is the first step to living a hope-filled life, then the second step is to believe that hope and take steps forward to prove that belief.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage." — Anais Nin
“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.” — Carl Rogers
Benjamin Franklin is said to have coined the infamous saying about the only two things that are guaranteed in life: ____ & ____.
Unless you’ve been living underground, I’m fairly certain you passed the quiz with flying colors. 1) Death and 2) Taxes seem to be the only guarantees we have in life.
Of course there can always be other arguments that are made. If you do a simple google search for “guarantees in life,” you will find endless articles on various opinions of what should be inserted in addition to death and taxes, but the original deduction by Franklin carries with it the right balance of brevity and truth that makes it a fair analysis of the human condition.
Part of the truth that this cliche conveys is that life is filled with movement, dynamism, and change.
“It is better to fail at your own life than to succeed at someone else’s.” — Andre Gide
“Your calling is found where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.” —Frederick Beuchner
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to “take that leap of faith”? To go out on your own and pave the path for your own career and destiny?
In the day and age we live in, this thought occurs more than it ever has before in history, because the opportunities are virtually endless (specifically in the Western world, especially for much of the U.S.).
But is it as glamorous as it sounds? Does it produce the life you always wanted to have? Will it meet all your hopes and dreams?
It’s not as easy as a yes or a no…
Taking the professional athlete’s mindset to everyday people in everyday life.
What that really means:
Playing professional golf for over three years taught me how to maximize personal potential. From creating discipline, to increasing productivity, to understanding the impact of sleep+exercise+diet, to improving focus and mental fortitude, and implementing accountability. Just as golf taught me, I am committed to helping you surpass your personal goals and the self-created perception of what you’re truly capable of, all to promote human flourishing in life.
the End Goal:
To inspire observers, collaborators, and friends to be their best for the ultimate good of the world.