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“Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.” — Albert Einstein
“You never know who’s swimming naked until the tide goes out.” — Warren Buffett
Life is all about sacrifices—what we are willing to give up for the greater good, or to gain something down the road. The path of looking the part often sacrifices for personal gain. The path of being the part focuses more on sacrificing for the goal of benefiting others.
Which sacrifice are you willing to make?
“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that enhances the freedom of others.” — Nelson Mandela
“The opposite of addiction is not sobriety, the opposite of addiction is connection.” — Johann Hari
“We have to stop being takers and start being caretakers.” — James Cameron
One of the dangers of living in such a prosperous and peaceful nation as America is that we inevitably begin taking what we have for granted, causing us to lose sight of what really matters. Most of us who are under fifty-years-old and have grown up in the U.S. have never experienced what it’s like to be a part of a war that impacts our home-front or the safety and security of our daily lives.
As a result, we end up creating big deals out of small issues, and begin making unimportant things way too important. And, in the process of doing so, we miss out on the importance of the 3rd tier of basic needs that every human being has. These are the non-obvious basic needs because they aren’t as directly correlated to survival, but they are of equal importance in turning mere survival into an existence that promotes and produces good for yourself, each other, and the communities we are a part of.
The three core needs of every human being are: to be 1) seen, 2) heard, and 3) connected.
When you strip away these three things from any human, you begin to push them back into the survival-mode of existence, and many times without even knowing it (or being conscious of it). When a need isn’t even recognized, there is no way for that need to be met—which is why these non-obvious needs can be so lacking in the lives of those around us just as much as in our own.
“We have what we seek,
it is there all the time, and if we give it time,
it will make itself known to us.” — Thomas Merton
“The sole cause of man’s unhappiness is that he does not know how to stay quietly in his room.” - Blaise Pascal
“By ceasing for a moment to consider my own wants I have begun to learn better what I really wanted.” - C.S. Lewis
The Sabbath still matters, and it always will. We aren’t super-men/women, we’re merely human. God knew we would forever remain human, as long as we’re here on this earth, and because of that He gave us an example to follow ever since the beginning of time. “So God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it God rested from all His work that He had done in creation.” (Gen. 2:3)
“You’re under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.” — Alan Watts
“The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from old ones.” — John Maynard Keynes
“To improve is to change, so to be perfect is to have changed often.” — Winston Churchill
You can change.
No, I’m serious. You really can.
But why don’t you? Why don’t we?
It’s important to know that you’re not alone in this problem of change. The struggle to change is a human dilemma that every individual faces to one degree or another. What is shared below will hopefully give you the tools to believe change is possible. The belief that can shift our self-limiting perceptions no matter how ingrained they may be.
“The only blessings you own are the ones you share.” — Frank Blake
Like an Oreo, life is meant to be shared.
From the oxygen we breathe to the planet that we inhabit, every aspect of life is amplified by the ability to share. Many things in life begin to lose their luster or appeal when they become isolated and individualized.
Sharing life — the real, tangible, non-virtual aspects of the moment-to-moment existence we call “living” — that is what makes us human. Sharing is one of the distinct features of being human. It is one of the greatest means we have to experiencing joy and fulfillment each and every day. And it’s a part of life that is readily available, always within reach of our current grasp, no matter the place we find ourselves in.
“Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.” — Jerzy Gregorek
Whether we want to or not, we are paying a price in countless decisions and actions throughout our days. The question is: do you want to pay more or less? And this is a valid question because there can definitely be times when deferring the cost till later is worth the extra cost to come.
It’s important to remember that when we hear the word “cost” we immediately associate it with dollar amounts or values, but that is by no means the only type of “cost” we pay. The more prevalent costs we face are opportunity costs.
Opportunity costs are the price we pay for doing anything. When we choose to do one thing, we pay the price of not being able to do a different thing.
“The world was not big enough for Alexander the Great, but a coffin was.” — Juvenal
(Fill in the blank):
If only I had _____, THEN I would be _____.
When it comes to the personal happiness, fulfillment, and joy found in life, this if-then statement pervades our daily thinking beyond what we may even realize.
Billboards, commercials, social-media ads, notifications, alerts, and on and on it goes… and that’s just the commercial side of things.
Life of the 21st century is training and conditioning its members that there is only one key that unlocks all we ever want in life. It’s a simple key that opens endless doors. This is the key of: having more.
Positive emotions can literally pay dividends.
“Dividends” are a form of recurring, passive income from larger investments in a business or company. Positive emotions emit intangible dividends that can add up, over time, into incredible sums of personal resourcefulness. And as Scott Belsky said so poignantly: “Resources are like cards. Resourcefulness is like muscle.”
I don’t know about you, but I would rather hedge my bets on resourcefulness over resources any day of the week. But the best case scenario is to build your resourcefulness while also growing your personal resources.
… so how do we do that? The answer might be easier than you’d expect.
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
“A goal is an objective, a purpose. A goal is more than a dream; it’s a dream being acted upon.” — David Schwartz
When we get out of bed we have two choices to make: 1) either make life happen, or 2) let life happen to us. Each day we have the opportunity to discover, understand, and remind ourselves of the point of our life and what we are living for. Not taking advantage of this opportunity will be the default choice if you do not intentionally or consciously make one. This is one of the greatest maladies, highlighted by Frankl’s psychotherapy, that continues to plague our existence, adding to the rise in depression, anxiety, and suicide.
While phones are an easy scapegoat (and rightfully so), I believe this is a surface wound and not the root. At it’s core, it is a loss of purpose; a loss of clarity in direction and pursuit; a misconstrued focus on image vs. relationship; an emphasis on self fulfillment through pleasure instead of meaning.
The beauty in this is that each day we have a choice. Every human has the ability to wake up on mission. Each individual has the capacity to set a trajectory for their life and pursue it. Each person can intentionally live with a daily drive for a higher purpose — for something bigger than themselves.
“Some things have to be believed to be seen.” — Madeleine L’Engle
“Capacity is a state of mind. How much we can do depends on how much we think we can do.” — David Schwartz
“So you’re saying there’s a chance!”
If you’re from the same era as me and are at all familiar with the Jim Carrey of old, this phrase brings one particular scene to mind — Lloyd Christmas asking Mary Swanson what his odds are for ending up with her. Standing there in the hotel lobby after a long, arduous, and near-to-frozen trip to Aspen, Lloyd represents a picture of hope in the middle of what seems to be hopelessness, the one-in-a-million chance of (in Lloyd’s words): “a guy like you and a girl like me ending up together” … this is the power of possibility, and the beauty of hope.
Taking the professional athlete’s mindset to everyday people in everyday life.
What that really means:
Playing professional golf for over three years taught me how to maximize personal potential. From creating discipline, to increasing productivity, to understanding the impact of sleep+exercise+diet, to improving focus and mental fortitude, and implementing accountability. Just as golf taught me, I am committed to helping you surpass your personal goals and the self-created perception of what you’re truly capable of, all to promote human flourishing in life.
the End Goal:
To inspire observers, collaborators, and friends to be their best for the ultimate good of the world.